Best. My gut feeling was so overwhelming that I couldnt deny it anymore. Hes either impulsive or, more likely, using you as a back-up girl when his other plans fell through. I met a guy through my job (he was/is a patient) and we played tag for over a year and we just recently exchanged numbers. Dont get mad. That was 3 days ago, and although he is texting throughout the day, he hasnt responded to my invite or told me what hes going through with his dog. We are trying to set up a day to get together (hopefully) this week but because of both of our work schedules we havent been able to narrow down a day and time but we both really want to go out. One day just disappearing without a trace when he finds someone close to him or is convinced you'll never meet anyways. Or was he just to worried about telling me the truth, being kind . we went from texting frequently to that. I kept sending a message per week. He makes an effort to spend time with you. Move on and find a man who recognizes your wonderful-ness. Im so happy to hear this, Audrey. Best, Bp, Ive met a guy (40, me 31) on a dating site live in different countries, we flirt with each other and start emailing on the site right away then we started emailing out side this was on the first week the he asked for my number and started texting and he started calling me for 2 months and a half everyday (text all day and 5-8 phone calls through the day) he got depressed (family issues) but he still call me or text me to see how I was doing then we went back to normal, we even started sort of planning trips together, we laughed and had great conversations about everything then he got depressed again and he started to be distant and he always said he was sorry but he was feeling very sad and overwhelmed, the calls stopped but he kept texting me back that was for 3 weeks I decided to email him since he doesnt call me or answer my calls he didnt answer the email but he kept texting he misses me and he thinks about me but that he is sad because of the family, I havent got a text call or email back from him in 4 days nothing and I feel sad, dont know what to do He kind of gave me the impression that he likes me but I dont know, we had plans to meet between June and August in person and I havent gone out or talked to other guys out of respect, not the kind of girl that goes out with other guys Should I give him time, forget about the guy and move on, I really need an advice, If youve read my article, Monica, you know the answer. He hasnt offered to accept my request of a phone call. I stuck to my words and vanished from his social media etc gone completely no contact. There was no dullness in my response nor overly excited response i do believe it was appropritae. That I have set a date and he wont commit to it, I gave my phone number and he wont call. I took it as he never was that into me Im just what ever he must be lonely. Bp. One day we were texting throughout the whole day and he formally and directly said that he wanted to meet me as he was interested in me. Ive been so busy, this is my first day with free time this week. He is again traveling this weekend so no one made any mention of when we are seeing each other next. But like I advise in all my writing, just keep living your life instead of hanging on what one guy does. Doesnt matter WHY hes behaving this way; only that he is. I told him i dont want to continue talking to him cos he literally can take hours to respond to one questions. But in one month from that day (Four weeks)!! These are things to (eventually) talk to him about. when you receive a No, not tonight. Met a guy, he seems like a real type Two. Thank you for your great article. I sent her a text afterwards joking about something we discussed and kept the texting to a minimum. We texted for three more days on and off all day again, getting more personal and joking about things that happened on the weekend, then its like he vanished, I havent heard back in a couple days. She really said it heretexting is not a datedont fall for itI do find it too impersonalYes! You asked for what you wanted and he basically is saying nope, wont do it. When a man is truly interested and looking for a real relationship you dont have to pressure him. What was happening is I was over analysing and he was trying to second guess me and work me out . I suggest you give more thought to whats realistic here. Ok, so I gave him the date.he kept writing, but did not talk about the date anymore. He knows how hurtful this is because it happened to him with a girl he had talked to on ok cupid before me. See how he responds. Im recently divorced 15 months ago after 25 years . I suggest we just be friends because, tbh, I didnt really get what we needed to slow down from. Be patient, though. Here are a few signs that he's doing the slow fade: He's distant during sex and leaves as soon as he can afterward. what a game changer compared to dating 15 years ago! If you gave this man your number, he will call you if hes interested. But I had the impression it wasnt as it was before he left. Three days later he texted me asking how my trip was (which was quite unusual as my father fell on the ski site and was taking to the hospital by trauma helicopter) I texted him about the situation (my father was ok in the end) and he was worried. What are your thoughts? Its been a couple days now with no communication. In the infatuation stage, it's normal to 'not get enough of each other.' Move on, ok? After about a week, we were texting and finding out more about each other. We have seen each other once since the first message and he called to come to see me one other time but I had plans already. You've even used some tips from MEL #12 - How to ignite your messaging game. He had taught me how to conquer my fear and gain confidence driving in the freeway. There are a lot of guys out there!! Hi Bobbi He sounds excited to see you, but he always seems to be too busy to meet. But pls be sure that you describe your desire to want to talk in a way thats not defensive or judgmental. And that its totally lame. She actually took me out to dinner once and we spend an hr or so at each others house almost daily A little smooching once in a while nothing hot and heavy . Bp, the guy I know works on a oil rig engineer off the Atlantic. I really dont know what to think of it. Bp, My question is I met a guy online. Should I cut my losses again? Bp. I do like him, but I also dont want to feel like Im compromising myself. I dont mind the txting at all as long as I know he is very interested. You responded appropriately and when a man likes you he WILL pursue you. Hope. I leave a few hours before replying to him, but then he texts back instantly. 3 month after I didnt heard from him and one day he texted me and told m he was back for good in my city and wanted to see me. I am getting mix signals because at times i feel he cares for me but sometimes i feel he doesnt. Hi Cindy. Its not. I started falling for him through the conversations and have not even met him once since he is miles away! Again, Im really glad to hear from you. I have only met him once and there is a 20 year age gap. And dont worry- there are more men where he came from. We both dont set expectations since he is far away. He did pick up the phone he is putting his dog down. I was texting with this guy for a month. If he wants to get in touch he will. Is he making a clear attempt to spend time with you? Im sure that will help you a lot in the future, girlfriend. The following day I texted saying I had a good night and he agreed but since then the texting has died down. But in the recent weeks, he hasnt on two occasions. Your guy friends are correct. I was at times afraid to beme. He said good morning and we text chatted a bit then he said I AM going to visit my mom ttyl and nothing about meeting. Hes a great guy inside and out. Bp, I need help so I have been seeing this Guy for months ok. I am a mom with co-parenting 50/50, week over week. Bp. As I said, texting is not dating. Me and this guy texted 3 weeks. I offerred Sunday afternoon and his response was let me see what I can do, supposed to meet up with friends. 639 Likes, 21 Comments - ' (@detailss.myers) on Instagram: "1 month of friendship Text for you A!I can't believe it's been so long since we've known each" Bp. I know hes struggling putting his dog down, but if I was so important, wouldnt he want to talk about it? We had a great first date and he remembered the candy I like and brought that to the movie we saw. I met this guy on talktostranger. Were going on a second date, but the thing is, he texts me all the time. We spent the night together. I told him yesterday I did on January 8th look at my messages. That's a HUGE excuse to keep you at arm's length. Learn more, work on your own resources and your self-esteem and respect. What are your thoughts on this situation? Move on. He called me amazing. I think you know the answer DJ. HI Tallgirl. We text chatted quite a bit (several good morning texts messages and Lots of texting in the evening after work). Hes working in Europe at the minute, coming home every 3/4 weeks. Be more direct: I love hearing from you but texting doesnt feel like were actually connecting. Told him that he did not have to string me along if he isnt interested. He is also going through a divorce. I like texting and calling.more calling is even better.. Hello! He flirts. About 10 min after I accept his request he messaged me, we then began to text and talk every day for weeks. Its your choice, of course But consider that if *every single guy* you meet is unacceptable, its more likely about you being able to benefit from learning to do some things differently. We had much better and more clear communication in that manner. We use the platform Mutuals. There are many different reasons a guy might be texting you daily. Or just thinking i will message him sooner or later seeing as I told him I liked him alot? Was that my cue to suggest a time to meet when I run? I had to mch which ruined the rest of the night he left my apartment unhappy because it was obvious I had to much to drink apologize the next morning by texting and I feel so in appropriate I want to see him again but I dont know if I should contact him after apologizing to him about my one too many glasses of wine He had texted and said all was good but I dont know if hes going to see him again and I want to let him now I would like to get together again but I dont know if I should text him or wait to see if you text me I would much rather him call me on the telephone but We only text. Amber, dating is all about meeting, spending time together and seeing if there is enough compatibility and interest to keep seeing each other or not. Get away from this man. Phone can help get a sense of their energy. I asked him if he now stays a bit in town or if he has already packed for another trip And he replied after a while that he would indeed be going again for another 7 week trip in a couple of days. That can be a fun part of a relationship thats developing nicely. It was certainly not part of my plan but we stayed together. Good for you. Bp. But he did treat me shitty, didnt he? Take a look at my blog Online vs Offline Dating. Bp. He works Long hours I might see him 2 or 3 times in a month Hook up.